Friday, May 16, 2014

stand up straight, Dont Slouch




Stand up straight and don't slouch!

By  on May 15, 2014

Your mother was right when she used to cry "stand up straight!" and "don't slouch!" In addition to visiting your chiropractor, having and maintaining good posture is one way in which to promote better joint mobility and muscle flexibility, thus alleviating stress and strain on the neck and back.

If you slouch a lot, then you risk having neck and back pain at some time in your life. Below are some simple and effective techniques that are meant to improve and help correct poor posture.

1. If you are one of those people who work with a computer or at a desk, then the chances of you slouching are quite high. The best way to deal with this situation is to take breaks and stretch during the entire day. Try getting up and moving about every 20 to 30 minutes. Stretching will help keep your muscles in good order for good posture.

2. Sit on the front edge of a chair while your feet are on the floor. Put a pillow or cushion in between your knees and squeeze for a few seconds while at the same time raising your head and pushing your shoulder blades back. Do this over and over, at least 10 times.

3. Stand up against a wall while keeping your back straight. Your heels should be about four inches away from the wall. While your arms are hanging down to your sides with your palms facing forward, use your abdominal muscles to push your low back towards the wall. Now slowly bring your neck and back of your head to the wall by tucking your chin towards your chest. Hold onto the position for about 20 seconds. Do this again at least three times.

4. Sit on a chair and place your feet flat on the floor. With both hands, pull your head downward, but not too hard. Only pull in a gentle manner such that you feel the muscles stretch in your lower neck and upper back. Repeat this at least three times and hold each position for about 20 seconds.

5. The next technique is to bring your teeth together in a gentle manner, tuck your chin in, and then slowly glide your head backwards without tilting it backward. Do this until you feel some tension at the back of the upper neck. Hold this position for at least 20 seconds. Repeat this at least three times.



Bob Waeger
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Thursday, May 8, 2014

5 ways to project Confidence

5 Ways To Project Confidence

I've been studying confidence (especially as it relates to the ability to deal optimally with change) for the past 25 years. Confidence is the personality trait most responsible for an individual's ability to deal well with organizational transitions. Confident people are self-motivated, have high self-esteem, and are willing to take calculated risks.

Here are five ways to build your self-confidence:

1. Play to your strengths

I once gave a speech for the senior management team of a software company in Silicon Valley that was relocating out of state. A few days later the president of the company telephoned me to say, "I have an administrative assistant who is probably the brightest, most creative person I've worked with. The problem is, she's married and can't move her family. I was wondering if you would see her for a private coaching session, so that when she applies for a new job, she will come across just as terrific as she really is. I'll gladly pay for the session."

Of course, I agreed, and looked forward to meeting this talented woman. When she came into my office I said, "This is a real pleasure. I've heard so many terrific things about you. Tell me about yourself. What is it that you do exceptionally well? What would you most want a prospective employer to know about you?" The woman was silent for several seconds. Finally she sighed and said, "I really don't know. I do a lot of things well, but when I do them, I don't notice."

Competence, strangely enough, bears little relationship to confidence. The fact that you do your job extremely well does not, by itself, insure that you are also confident of your abilities. It is only when you are aware of your competence that you become confident.

My favorite tip for increasing awareness of your strengths and talents is especially effective right before a job interview or any other important event in which you want to project your most confident self. First, think of a past success that filled you with pride and a high sense of achievement. (This doesn't have to be taken from your professional life – although I do encourage clients to keep a "success log" so that they can easily find an event.) Then recall the feeling of power and certainty – and remember or imagine how you looked and sounded. Recalling that genuine emotion will help you embody it as you enter the meeting room or walk up to the podium.

2. Watch your posture

You know that the way you feel affects your body. If you are feeling insecure or depressed, you tend to round your shoulders, slump, and look down. If you are upbeat and assured you tend to hold yourself erect and expand your chest. But did you know that the reverse is also true? Your posture has a powerful impact on your emotions and on the way that others perceive you.

Research at Harvard and Columbia Business Schools, shows that simply holding your body in expansive, "high-power" poses for as little as two minutes stimulates higher levels of testosterone – the hormone linked to power and dominance – and lower levels of cortisol, one of the stress hormones.

In addition to causing hormonal shifts in both males and females, the researchers found that these powerful postures lead to increased feelings of power and a higher tolerance for risk. They also found that people are more often influenced by how they feel about you than by what you're saying.

So before you go into a situation in which you want to project your most confident self, start by standing up straight, pulling your shoulders back, widening your stance and holding your head high. Then put your hands on your hips ((think "Wonder Woman" or "Superman" pose). Just by holding your body in this posture you will begin to feel surer of yourself and to project self-assuredness.

3. Choose to be an optimist

In Chinese, the ideogram for crisis combines two characters: One is the symbol for danger, the other for opportunity. So — is the glass half-empty or half-full? It's both. The only difference is where you focus your attention.

Long before Dale Carnegie, the human potential movement, or self-help videos, a positive outlook was acknowledged to be a crucial part of high-level achievement and confidence. In today's fast-moving, competitive business environment, a positive, upbeat, "can-do" attitude is vital for success.

Choosing not to dwell on negativity, doesn't mean you should be oblivious to potential danger. Rather, you can analyze situations for both positive and negative aspects, develop strategies to minimize negatives and optimize positives, and then focus on the upside of the situation. Spending too much time worrying about troublesome aspects or negative outcomes is a waste of mental energy that saps enthusiasm and confidence and makes it more difficult to realize the potential opportunities that are also inherent in the situation.

4. Loosen up

At another program, for a utility company on the East Coast, I was asked to speak twice: once in the morning and again in the afternoon. At the first session I had just finished talking about the growing uncertainty that all organizations face when an audience member asked, "If everything is uncertain, what happens to strategic planning? How can you make any plans for an unknown future?"

It was a good question, and I answered it by using the two sessions as an example:

"I was hired to put on two identical programs today, but you and I both know that it is impossible for them to be identical even though I will use the same set of Power Point slides for both presentations. The differences will be determined by the makeup of the two audiences — how many attend, what their energy level is, what questions they ask, maybe even what they had for lunch. And, of course, I too will be slightly different depending on my energy level and what I had for lunch, etc. I don't know how the afternoon session will be different, but I'm certain that the unexpected will happen.

As you prepare for the future you need to set goals and make plans while taking into account a multitude of contingencies in a volatile environment. And then you have to understand that, despite your best efforts, the future may not play out the way you planned, and you will most probably be required to reorient as conditions change — frequently in ways you never anticipated."

Some people are naturally more flexible and better at coping with and adapting to a complex, always changing reality than others. (I call these individuals "change adept.") They've learned that, in chaotic times, the trick is not to brace for change, but to loosen up and learn how to roll with it.

You can build resilience and confidence by honing your ability to commit to a course of action while, at the same time, staying flexible enough to alter behaviors and attitudes quickly to support a new direction.

5. Embrace failure

In a television interview, Whoopie Goldberg described how she got her first one-woman show in New York: Whoopie was performing her nightclub act and (the director) Mike Nichols was in the audience. He came backstage and offered to create a show for her in a Broadway theater. Whoopie said she didn't know if that was such a good idea. What if she were lousy? Mike asked if she'd ever been lousy before and Whoopie said "Sure!" His response was, "Then it's no big deal. You'll just be lousy on Broadway."

To me, that reply was brilliant.

I urge my audiences to appreciate that growth comes as much from failure as it does from success. One project manager I interviewed summed it up when he said, "If this venture fails, it will still be worth all the time and effort I've put into it for the past 18 months. Just look at everything I've learned."

To facilitate this kind of productive thinking, the United States Army developed the After Action Reviews. AARs are now used by organizations around the world to help teams learn from their mistakes, prevent future errors, and find new solutions to problems.

Basically, the AAR process assembles people who were involved in a planned project and asks them to answer a series of questions. But you can conduct your own private AAR around any important event that didn't turn out the way you hoped it would.

  1. What was the desired outcome?
  2. What was the actual outcome?
  3. Why were there differences between what I wanted and what I achieved?
  4. What did I learn?
  5. What would I do differently next time?

Fear of failure is a huge obstacle to developing and projecting self-confidence. But when you know that your failures can't stop you (if they are learning experiences and "no big deal"), then you increase your confidence that nothing can stop you!

Carol Kinsey Goman is an international keynote speaker. Go to www.CKG.com for more information.




Bob Waeger
Director of Sales
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